Smiths attend their first Lifestyle event!
Newbies attend their first big swingers lifestyle event in Vegas in 2019 and write about their first impressions, concerns and wins!
Big thank you to Mr and Mrs Smith for helping us with this guest blog!
If you’d told them when they met 20 years ago that one day they would be standing in their pajamas on a Las Vegas rooftop, getting to know a sexy couple from Pennsylvania, they’d have called bullshit and walked away.
Yet there they were at Fusion Las Vegas doing exactly that. She wore a sporty cut off hoodie and sexy boy short panties while he wore pajama bottoms that were just tight enough to show off the goods. “That was definitely not something we’d ever imagined doing,” she said.
She is Mrs. Smith. The petite, super sexy half of Mr. & Mrs. Smith. You may have seen them around Twitter @justthesmiths
What lead them to this event?
After a little over a year talking about the lifestyle, they finally made the decision to jump in. That jump would take them to Fusion Las Vegas in May of 2019. “We decided on Fusion for two reasons. First was proximity. It wasn’t a long drive from where we live,” said Mr. Smith, “The other was a particularly sexy young woman on the guest list we’d been wanting to meet.” Since this was their first event, there was understandable nervousness. Going to your first LS event can be a little nerve-wracking when you’re still figuring out if you’re even going to be in the LS.
“When Mr. Smith first revealed this fantasy he had a year earlier, I was like, ‘that’s sexy, but no,’ I’m not doing that,” she said. As time passed and they continued to have discussions about what the LS entailed, Mrs. Smith softened her position. They talked many times about what they’d be comfortable with, potential boundaries and what they both wanted to get out of the LS. “The more she softened her position, the more nervous I actually became,” he said, “It’s one thing to have the fantasy and know it’s in your mind. It’s entirely different when you start to realize it might just happen.” Like anyone, they had some concerns about attending a large lifestyle event. When they arrived they weren’t even sure if they would actually be in the LS or not. Fusion was a test run. It didn’t take long to meet the woman they’d been eager to meet.
“We knew what she looked like from pictures. But when she knocked on the door and I opened it, I was gobsmacked,” he said, “We both were taken with just how attractive she was.” They visited with her for a short while before making plans to meet a group for dinner. “I know attractiveness means something different to everyone. But for us, smarts and the ability to have a conversation ranks very high for us. And this girl had it,” added Mrs. Smith.
What are your thoughts about the Swingers Event?
From an event standpoint, the Smith’s were keen to observe what the event offered and what it lacked. For the Smith’s, the biggest advantage of Fusion was the cost. While large LS getaways like Hedo or Desire come with a high cost of entry, Fusion offered a more reasonable price for a new couple to experience the LS for the first time. It was an affordable way for them to test the waters. If they went to Fusion and found the LS wasn’t really for them, they could do so with minimal financial investment.
On the other hand, if they found the LS was something they enjoyed and wanted to further explore, then it would be the first of hopefully many sexy getaways for the couple. There were drawbacks to the event, however. Both Mr. & Mrs. Smith agreed there was not enough added value for the price.
“When you’re asking people for a large amount of money to give them an experience, I think it’s easy for event planners to think bigger is always better,” he said, “But to us it’s not necessarily how fancy the DJ, or lighting or shows are. The real value is in the little things.”
Among those little things the couple suggested were breakfast included, or even providing a free drink coupon. “The price of drinks at Fusion varied. People who bought the same drink one night were commenting how they’d paid two different prices,” he said, “Several people we spoke to said they felt nickel and dimed.” Certainly every event has its pros and cons. But what was their approach to the event itself and what did they learn while they were relaxing by the pool?
One of their biggest concerns leading up to the event was what to wear. It’s a common concern for LS attendees. What’s the right outfit for a theme night or just during the day, or for going to dinner? It can all be overwhelming. “The one thing we know about outfits for a LS event now is it’s easy to over think it. You need a couple of pool outfits, a nicer outfit or two for dinners, and a few themed outfits,” he said, “And believe me when I say, men have it the easiest. Glow nights? Guys wear whatever you’d usually wear and add some glow accessories. Simple.”
And that was the lesson they learned about LS wardrobe: Simplicity.
“You need to be comfortable with yourself,” Mrs. Smith added, “If you’re not comfortable, you won’t feel sexy. So not over thinking it is best. The outfit that brings out your confidence will beat the risque outfit that you’re not sure about any day.” We talk extensively about communication in the LS. The Smiths had communicated their hopes, concerns and boundaries with each other ahead of time. The discussions included activities they’d be comfortable with. Kissing, touching and parallel play were on the table. Even soft swap was a possibility if they met the right couple. “We had an idea of what we were comfortable with and what was off limits, as well as subtle statements we could
give if we needed to bug out,” he said.
But within the first 24 hours their approach changed dramatically.
“We started feeling a little overwhelmed. Suddenly the LS had gone from something we talked about to something
that was real and we knew we needed to regroup,” he said. So they backed off the potential for play and just focused on relaxing and getting to know people.
“That was the best decision we made at Fusion,” she added. “We took the pressure of ourselves and just got to know people.”
A solid approach to the LS. Being relaxed and comfortable makes for a great LS experience. After all of that they did have one more important piece of advice. “Wear sunscreen,” he said. So true. Sunburns will wreck a LS getaway quickly. Overall, however, the Smiths count their first event a success. They got their feet wet and were able to begin finding their tribe.
“We got to meet amazing people,” Mrs. Smith said, “Between the friends we made from Pennsylvania and connecting with TorridSouls, Cate from Swinging Downunder and James & Taara from Sex Uninterrupted, the weekend was fantastic.”
So with all of that in mind, would they go again? Not only is the answer a yes, they’ve already booked their first trip to Hedo for June 2020. They’ll be celebrating their 15th wedding anniversary in sexy style.
Want to get to know Mr. & Mrs. Smith better? Find them on Twitter & Kasidie at @justthesmiths.